I Need Advise Please Help Me!!, IM DATING A TURKISH Options

Im a single mother of a 11yr old boy that i had when i was only 15yrs old. Now i found this wonderful Turkish guy along my way i love him so much and he loves me too he is Muslim and I'am learning the religion now im realy interested in learning more about the religion. I have not met his family yet and I'am very scared to do so since im a single mother I so worried that his family will not like me because of that. Plus iam Mexican and not muslim as of yet. But i will be converting soon . Any advise out there? Please help me im so scared to loose my boyfriend.

depend on my thought about general Turkish people I believe they open minded and friendly compare to other Arabian family, so you don't need to be worried about that issue,
but you need to believe in yourself and to be patient, Also try to discover the islam religion step by step with a pure heart to be satisfied with it, don't be so rush or scared

PS: boyfriend sound a harsh for a Muslim guy (in my opinion)

good luck

Make sure you learn Islam sincerely, and not with the intention of marrying a muslim.

BE POSITIVE and everything would work out perfectly
besides, if you guys like each other who cares about his family! lool
just be yourself and don't over do it

don't convert for the wrong reasons...judging by ur post it seems like it's just to be with ur bf, and that shall not be accepted in Islam. but only God knows what's in ur heart so I wish u the very best.... and ur bf should know that having a gf is wrong..maybe he might like to go over his religion before he shows u anything.

all the best

This post has been edited by immaslapyou: Mar 1 2009, 02:26 AM

Thank you so much for helping me friends i really appreciate it. I know some of you came at me a little strong but its okay i understand. Maybe if i say a little more about my life you would understand me. Im learning Islam because i really want to. No only because i have a bf who is Muslim. To be honest i have never been religious because i dont agree with my family religion which is catholic and i also tried to go to a christian church and i did not like it either. But now that learning the Muslim religion i really love it. The big reason why i love it its because the book has never been changed the wording is the same to me that is valuable. I have read parts of the Qur'an i dont own one yet because i have not converted. Is that okay? Sorry its not to offend anyone im just trying to learn as i go. I do own a Textbook that explains the religion. But i dont know if i can own the Holy Qur'an since i have not been cleanse. Am i right or wrong?

Another thing about the man im getting to know. Yes he did explain to me about the the bf gf thing. Since iam learning and i have been in America all my life i have thought the bf gf thing is correct but he has thaught me other wise which i agree. Sorry i did not explain my self in my last message. Im just americanized im learning little by little as i go.

Well I think you are doing good as a start and I encourage you to read more about Islam because the more you do.. you’ll find fascinating and logical facts.. the amazing thing about Islam.. it’s not only a religion where you practice certain things and then live differently.. Islam gives you an amazing way of life.. it’s ur guide line.. besides it satisfy you from inside out.. I LOVE IT!!
Well hw did it go with his parents? Did u meet them already??

Well I think you are doing good as a start and I encourage you to read more about Islam because the more you do.. you'll find fascinating and logical facts.. the amazing thing about Islam.. it's not only a religion where you practice certain things and then live differently.. Islam gives you an amazing way of life.. it's ur guide line.. besides it satisfy you from inside out.. I LOVE IT!!
Well hw did it go with his parents? Did u meet them already??

Thank you so much. I appreciate you understanding me and not judging me right away. You made me feel so much better than other responses i got. Well no i have not meet them yet. He would like to wait a lil bit longer since we have been getting to know eachother for 6 months only. But he already said he loves me and i love him so much. We get along so well its amazing. What do you think? Is it too soon to meet his parents? Yes im loving Islam im actualy going to buy my first Hijab tonight and he will help me choose one. I cant wait to wear it and go to the Mosque for the first time. Im so excited and i know i will love it too.

Well I’m glad that I made you feel better I just believe every person needs couple other chances to prove her/himself

I’m so happy for your progress!! Hijabs are such a cool thing lool.. it makes you look so special! Many people compliments my colorful hijabs all the time. It makes me feel so good

Umm I’m not sure if 6 months are too short or too long.. I think u r ok.. lol.. one of my friend’s met her bfs’ parents just a month after they knew each other.. that was too soon.. but I think it doesn’t really matter how long.. but relationship wise I think 6 months is a short time to determine love.. just get to know him more.. & as my friend says make sure he pays his bills lool..

and yah, when you first go to the mosque don’t get self conscious or sensitive.. even if people stare at you because they stare at everyone. When I first went to our mosque here I told my ex that I didn’t want to step there again although am Muslim. But when I went back again some different people welcomed me & I’ve been going there since then

bty, if you need help with Hijab cloths or styles don’t hesitate to ask, the sisters and I will be happy to help you.. & it may seem hard at first, but it gets better

Thank You i actualy have this awsome website they sell gorgeous hijabs. Here is the website www.thecanadianmuslim.com Take a look at it thats how i learned how to wear a hijab. Where do you live wonderer?

yah that's a good website.. it was confusing to me tho lool
I live in Arizona

so, did u find a good Hijab yet??

Wow that's what you call progress!

But fo real, I dont think any one here was being mean or harsh on you so please dont take it that way !

I have another site for you, the prices are okay better than others

http://www.hijabstoreonline.com/