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Cinderella is crap. Pochahontas style.... thats young


Ummm.... i think im in lurrrvve would i marry. YEs. But would it last...i don't have a clue. So im not even going to try...

lol j if you never try you wont find out, go for it girl
i stilll think its best to marry young

There are pros and cons to marriage at any age.
When young people are more vunerable and suceptable to peer pressure and have lower chances on having a firm, stable sense of self and self worth. When older this things are more often pressent but there are exceptions to every so called 'rule'.

To me the main desire in marrying young is family. As a woman i feel it is my duty to have and care for children (once married). So, ideaily, I'd marry between the ages of 18-25. This is to give me the best chance of looking after my family well as early-onset-athritus and other health conditions run in my family and the younger I am the healthier i should be (in theory atleast lol). So to me young marriage is a good thing. But for others I think it depends more on the individuals developmental maturity. Would they be able to cope and manage with marriage and family? is a good question to ask oneself at any age i think.

Assalamu alaikum (Peace be upon you)
GB Xx

I'm curious to know, especially if you're between the ages of 18-30, what kind of partner would be suitable for you? I say this because the divorce rate in our culture is partly due to the fact people get married way too soon. While I am pro marriage, people need time to truly discover themselves first. You can't always depend on your partner to make you whole. You need to be a whole person yourself as well, before you are ready to find a person who is in the same state as you in this regard. Being a whole person means you are, or in the process of being truly at peace with yourself, it means you know you have an idea of your life's purpose, and it means you are, or can potentially be confident in who you are. People from 18-30 years of age really need time to experience the world in their own way. Mind you, I have nothing against people getting married when they're young -- I would get married young in a heart-beat if I met the right person for me doesn't matter what age we are, but should us youngsters get married -- what makes you decide to get married at a young age? And what do you expect out of a partner in that regard?

By the way, I have seen people who have gotten married young have very successful marriages.

If I were looking for a husband I would likely look for someone whom I could feel safe and comfortable with, someone trustworthy and good with children as children are key to my mind of marriage.

I think age is a very varied sector: the amount of years one has been on the alive and how much you've laernt and developed in those years are two different things. Hense why some people are ready for marriage at 18 but others not until their 40s+. Ofcourse other factors and variables exsist also, such as: upbringing, religion, social econimics, class/standing/finances, parents (as role modles), peers, etc.

Assalamu alaikum (Peace be upon you)
GB Xx

Hmm. I think people leave marriage late for the reason Binty stated: they haven't found Mr right yet.

But does Mr right even exist?

@Breeze, that is probably one of the hardest phases people go through in life, and have to end up learning how to grow out of it, because there isn't only one person who will be right for you. One can build up such an impossible ideal for a partner that it will be far too hard to find a match in real life. I used to actually be extremely afraid that I'll never experience falling in love because of this. But a relationship/marriage does involve more than all the things we have a tendency to want it to involve (such as going beyond the soul-mate factor). I think it's the willingness to make something work. I think in order to make something work it's beneficial to know why it wouldn't work in the first place instead of forcing it upon one-self that it will have to work. Nobody has a control over another's life, nor has the power to change them. But two people in a relationship can have such a positive, and nourishing influence on each other... I think there is a right person for everyone, but there isn't a universal rule of what the right kind of person actually is.

@CrystalStone, I agrees.

Well put Binty

My mum married my father when she was 26, he was her Mr Right and they still devorded within 5 years. The more presure we put on ourselves and our partner to be so Right then the harder it is to keep a relationship working. This added pressure can turn a loveing reltionship into a chore.

Assalamu alaikum (Peace be upon you)
GB Xx

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus after all.

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus after all.

im actually from earth

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus after all.

im actually from earth

*facepalm* You just don't get it, do you?

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus after all.

im actually from earth

Lol

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus after all.

im actually from earth

same here

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus after all.

And the "perfect partner" is in Pluto.

Well, that is up to the individual to decide. With myself personally, I found Love at a somewhat young age. I dated quite a few others before I found my soul mate. I’m still deciding on rather or not legal documentation is needed between us or not, but at the moment we could care less.

I would probably allow my child to marry at or around sixteen if s/he believes that s/he has found the right one and they have been dating for a full year. After my child is twenty-one I will allow my child to do with whatever s/he wishes to do without my influence.

Other than these factors, as long as two people are in love they should be allowed to married.