Advice: Men vs. Women
Men want sex and women want to share their feelings. Hara Estroff Marano gives advice on gender differences.

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Men vs. Women

What bewilders me, and maybe others, is differences between men and women. It seems to me, that most often men's driving force (conscious or unconcious) is sex but a woman's driving force is emotional exchange. Women want to receive things like recognition, validation, feeling needed and wanted and of course, to be loved. When do a man's emotions come into play beyond sexual desire? What makes the crossover from sexual desire to something more?

Sad but true, some men don't know how to emotionally connect with anyone, including women. Unfortunately, some also were raised according to such a double standard that they can't countenance sex and affection in the same package. Many men want to emotionally connect with a woman, and to connect with their own children, but it's also true that many don't know how to be vulnerable, which is what intimacy demands. They're often caught in a bind, wanting more emotional depth to their lives but not knowing how to get it because boys are taught from a young age that emotional stuff is girls' stuff. Truth is, emotional stuff is human being stuff. What's a poor woman to do? First and most important-choose the right guy. Someone with whom you establish a conversation and rapport before you jump into bed. And then recognize that men often do express affection though sex. Further, the closeness they feel after sex presents a great opportunity for conversation that contains the "emotional exchange" so satisfying to women (and to men, too). But women sometimes demand too much emotional talk from men. Women need to recognize that men often express affection best through actions (changing a light bulb, fixing the VCR) rather than words.


Psychology Today Magazine, August 19, 2003
Last Reviewed 14 Nov 2005
Article ID: 2964
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i found it on internet
like to know what you think

Yes men do everything to get the attention of women and women do nothing to get the attention of men

men are amazing!!

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Anyways.

Tell him how you want to.
Say; Which women gave you the right to say men are amazing. Come on I know you want to. I vote one for women over men.

LOL thats exactly what i was going to say

lol this is a funny thread

Women are unique
Men are stolid

Both Men and Women are essential to each other therefore we are both fantastico.
Kind of unfair to say men have no feelings and only want one thing...well its true but well thats Men, and some of them are pretty fab i'm sure. and Women are fab, who dares to dis-agree?!

whatever

im sure poga wont disagree with you keekee!

Shut up Sami

I don't even know this shakespearen

charmer!

Yes, KeeKee...you know what?

I vote your comment to be the best in this thread. ( )

LMHO!

Anyhoo...um yeah, guys have feelings

omg blessing, you KILLED IT!!!!

ugh stop it, this is creepy now!

Only if it will get us some where.

i know many women who are much more perverted than being emotional

FLZ secretly craves to be a woman.

Sowwee..couldn't help it

And this relates to islam How?

In islam men and women strive together to please ALLAh, We dont go against eachother.


( i deleted this personal insult because i felt like being nice - be thankful)

^ayt KJ.

Topic moved.

no im happy to be a man

oh shut up s exist jerk

what the hell??

do you realize how immature you sound FLZ? Seriously, I've yet to come across a decent post of yours. Take your crude comments elsewhere.

This post of yours got edited for having a filthy mind. Thanks dude for helping us guys out. Really lets make ourselves seem more like we don't care about them women.

lol i forgot what i even said that got edited out

mind PMing it to me

woooow what did he say?

Just think FLZ it should come to you

mind PMing it

dont really remember what i said

I dont know, it was edited before i saw it. Tut FLZ you know what your like

I can't even remember what he said...but yeah it wasn't a pleasant thought.

i memba. it was quite ... disgusting.

might be about me killing my self if i have a girl instead of a boy or me getting testicular surgery to make sure i produce only XY sperm cells

not sure which obnoxious comment it was

no it was a different comment.

but the one you just repeated makes me a feel a little sick. you remind of those se xist pigs in the times of ignorance before Prophet Muhammad came and got rid of those awful practices, and established that daughters are a blessing and a gift from Allah.

wow flz. all the woman on this sitee...plz dont think all us men are like that...heck please dont think neone is like that...this kid is just wow

i wannna have a girl especially after i saw my neice and i want a boy course

don't worry most men are happy to have daughters. just ew exceptions like FLZ.

ya im sexist

big deal

but dont call me a pig for being one

I want a girl but I only get boys.
Don't get me wrong I'm very content with ma boys.

juan thats cuz god wants u to have only boys

hehehe

He knows I can only handle boys. True that, but I can dream.

how many kids do u have and how old are they?

3 boys
ages 6 about to be 7, 4 about to be 5, and 1 about to be 2. See the youngest has a birthday coming up in like a week or so. The other two will have thier birthdays a couple of months after that.

hey i called you a se xist pig.

^ killing two birds with one stone eh?

haha yeah!

same thing

i dont call women pigs when they say they are superior to men are start screaming at me for my views

and juan tell ur son i said happy birthday

BEFORE & AFTER MARRIAGE

Before Marriage:

John - At last, I can hardly wait!
Jane – Do you want me to leave?
John – NO, don't even think about it.
Jane – Do you love me?
John – Of course! Always have, always will.
Jane – Have you ever cheated on me?
John – NO! Why are you even asking?
Jane – Will you kiss me?
John – Every chance I get.
Jane – Will you ever hit me?
John - Hell no! Are you crazy?
Jane – Can I trust you?
John – Yes.
Jane – Darling!





After Marriage:


Jane – Darling!
John – Yes.
Jane – Can I trust you?
John - Hell no! Are you crazy?
Jane – Will you ever hit me?
John – Every chance I get.
Jane – Will you kiss me?
John – NO! Why are you even asking?
Jane – Have you ever cheated on me?
John – Of course! Always have, always will.
Jane – Do you love me?
John – NO, don't even think about it.
Jane – Do you want me to leave?
John - At last, I can hardly wait

ASSALAMUALAIKUM
From here you may share SWEETSWORDS
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Mr: Barzakh Fitrath Ullah : At first i knew Woman as mother my obedient subject
Then as wife the sexual object
Till as daughter
My own carcass with her own character
Now i know woman
Through spiritual intercourse and physical relation
That they are unknown group with common oneness
They treat theirs benefactor of mother hood with great selfishness

Mrs Be Aql Khan Usta : At first i knew Man as Father my fearful toothache
Then came the heart breaker with lots of headache
Then as son
My product and his portion
Now i know Man
Through mental intercourse and oral discussion
That they are necessary cover for self defense
They are known for one benefit with common nuisance

from SWEETSWORDS 71 [ Adam and Eve ]

backwards

Yes

But what is about one below

that was funny man

Mr Barzakh Ullah : Space is the leg of the matter and time is the head
Between this head and tail resides the BARZAKH the mad
In the space time matter i am the material that matters not
Yet i bore the sight and sound of every cold dead and living hot
Who am i matters not oh BE AQL but do you know who are you
The materialistic turban or the spiritualistic shoe
Do you know what wonder you are my feminine fashion
Between my head and tail my BARZAKH passion
You are my heart that sends blood cell angels to my head to toe
Oh BE AQL in this play of life you are my cast crew script but i am the show

Mrs Be Aql Khan Usta : If brain is feminine then what gender is heart
If mind is the feminine womb where all thoughts enter
Then what gender is the place they depart
What gender is tender moments what gender is hard times
What gender is gentle pleasure what gender is criminal crimes
Tell me about your gender theory oh sexiest BARZAKH
Tell me what gender is hearing ears what gender is our watching ANKH
Tell me what is the gender of heartless person
Tell me how to make heart softer with your sexiest sermon

from SWEETSWORDS 40 [ Cosmic Criterion ]

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